Myth 3 – You Know When You Will Have Met the One

• False positives – I think he is but he isn’t
• False negatives – I think he isn’t but he really is
• I think he’s the one so I don’t take in contradictory information
• I think he’s the one SO BADLY that when the relationship dies, I go crazy
• I don’t look at alternative explanations for my feelings of anxiety/romance (i.e. the football player who’s heart started racing when there was bad turbulence and he interpreted that as love for the stewardess whom he later married and divorced)
• I am addicted to the romance that is so highly prevalent in our culture
• I think that if he’s the “one,” he’s always going to be the one
• The American Government is pulling accounting fraud.

Myth 4 – Pick Only Someone You Are Madly in Love With

• Love is enough to see you through
• Life hasn’t really been lived if you haven’t loved with all your heart and soul (this means different things to different people, and what about the trade-off and sacrifice to love with “all your heart and soul?”)

Truths about being MADLY in love:

• You produce hormones that make you act not in your best interest
• You are picking a long-term partner on short-term emotions
• Do you really want to be the person who loves most? You will have the lower hand~ your partner will feel more secure and relies on you loving him so much that he won’t do much to try and keep you
• Give the relationship time so that the madness passes and you can more accurately judge J
• Why not have your own model of love besides mad passion?

Myth 7 – Pick Someone Who Has Sown His or Her Wild Oats and is Now Ready to Settle Down with You

Truths about unfaithful people:

• Studies have shown that unfaithfulness correlates with amount of premarital sex
• There is no physiological craving for sex with a new person – it’s just a learned behavior with a hormonal thrill for conquering someone new
• There may be a hormone-theory of sexual types (i.e. women with more testosterone on average may have a big effect)