Sociology 4
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Myth 9 – You Should Never Have Sex on the First Date
Truths:
- Sometimes, the moment is perfect – it can even begin a commitment/relationship
- Sometimes you only get one chance – nothing ventured, nothing gained
- Always show off your best qualities
- Some men will never open up unless it’s sexual
- Sex early on can lead to quicker self-disclosure and intimacy (i.e. the girl and guy who met at the airport, started touching on the plane, had sex at the hotel, and are now serious)
But there can be:
- The person who treats you like disposable tissue
- The person who starts planning the wedding the next morning
- Pregnancy or STDs. Oops.
- You don’t want your children doing this
So…always be true to yourself. Weigh risks and benefits…and go from there.
Myth 20 – Everyone should cohabitate before marriage:
- You can’t really know someone if you don’t live with her
- When you live together, you will get enough info about your lover’s habits and personality, so that you can better your chances for relationship success
- Cohabitation is good for couples because it avoids the older, patriarchal rules for marriage. It is a much fairer, more egalitarian relationship (no- married men do more child care, more housework, and are more fair about money)
- But cohabitation is sexier- couples don’t take each other for granted
- We can marry when we are ready for children (but that may never come!!!)
Tips if you do cohabit:
- Don’t cohabit for over a year
- Mirror marriage as much as possible
Myth 10 – Even if sex isn’t fantastic in the beginning, it can be fixed
- There are a lot more important things – bad sex is just trivial
- Practice makes perfect, and there’s always sex therapy (practice doesn’t always make perfect, and sex therapists can help but cannot create miracles)
- Sex isn’t that important – especially as you get older
- Once my partner is relaxed with me, she will be wilder and our repertoire will inc.
What to do, then, if the sex isn’t good:
- Don’t get married or get help before committing
- Stop faking sexual responses
- Experiment
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